Unlearning What Was Never True

You didn’t come into this world doubting yourself.

Somewhere along the way, you made quiet agreements, not with words, but with your nervous system.

Here are a few of mine:

"If I do everything perfectly, no one will see how flawed I really am."

"I’m not Beethoven or Da Vinci, so why bother creating anything at all?"

“If I bring nothing to the table, no one will love or accept me.” 

These aren’t just thoughts, they’re survival strategies. They formed in moments where fear felt safer than hope. They protected me from shame, rejection, and the risk of being seen.

We call them limiting beliefs, but really they’re nervous system patterns, repeated responses that once felt safe, and now feel automatic.

They are not true, but have fun telling your brain that. The brain named itself, you can't "beat" it.

So you may be wondering, "If these beliefs aren’t true, but I still do them and can’t outthink them, how do I 'fix' them?"

You don’t undo a limiting belief by shaming it into silence. You soften it by understanding where it came from. You soften it by offering compassion to the version of you that had to survive. Sit quietly with those feelings and stories; you might be surprised at what surfaces.

If this speaks to you, I created some new Resources section, under "When You're Feeling Stuck," designed to help you work with limiting beliefs gently, at your own pace.

You’re allowed to unlearn what was never true.

You’re allowed to be free.